In this article, you are going to learn about the law of reciprocity. This actually goes a little bit even beyond the law of attraction, and can be used to leverage the kind of lifestyle that you truly want for yourself!
I have built a very successful, six-figure lifestyle using both the law of attraction and the law of reciprocity. But it is very important for you to understand that, like the law of attraction, the law of reciprocity has often been diluted and thinned-down by online gurus and content marketers in an attempt to make it ‘sellable’ to the masses.
So today, you are going to learn what this law really means, how it can help you, and what you have to do it utilize it.
If you truly want to succeed in life, you need to get your mindset right. And to do that, you need to understand the law of reciprocity.
The Law Of Reciprocity and The Law Of Attraction: How They Work Together
The first thing that you need to understand is that these two laws work very closely together.
First, the law of attraction. This law basically states that if you get your thoughts, feelings, and actions into alignment toward a specific goal, you will attract that goal into your life and succeed.
And right beside it, you have the law of reciprocity. This law basically states that whatever you put out into the universe will eventually find its way back to you.
These two laws have a lot of overlap, and that overlap is important to understand.
In many ways, they both operate simultaneously.
How The Law of Attraction Overlaps With The Law of Reciprocity
So, following the law of attraction, you want to have your goal. Then, you need to get your thoughts, feelings, and actions all in alignment, working toward that goal. This, in turn, will help you to ‘manifest’ or ‘attract’ that goal.
And then, we have the law of reciprocity. So you want to put out into the universe what you want to get back.
Learn the interwoveness of these two laws in this video.
If you are constantly trying to take from the world to get paid, the world will come looking for you, trying to get paid by you in return!
But if you deliver true, real value to the world and those around you, then real, true value will also return back to you one day.
This is like an investment in yourself, and is the main reason for why I believe so much in bringing real, measurable value to my audience.
But as you can see, these two laws have a lot of overlap.
You start with a goal. This goal may be a specific type of lifestyle, a certain level of success, etc.
Then, you start using both of these laws. You get your thoughts, feelings, and actions all in alignment toward this goal, and you start working for it.
As you work for it, you put value out into the universe. You make people’s lives better. You help them to solve their problems. You spread positivity, love, joy, and peace. You become a source of hope and value for people.
So, this covers both sides of the coin… the law of attraction and the law of reciprocity.
Then, you just keep at it. You keep doing both. You keep living, aligning your thoughts, and creating real, measurable value.
In time, all of this work and good energy will come back to you… and you will start succeeding in a way that you never thought possible before.
Remember That It Does Not Always Come Back From The Person You Gave It To
This is an important thing to understand about the law of reciprocity.
Just because you do something good for someone doesn’t mean that they are going to be the source of the good that comes back to you.
The law of reciprocity is not the same as cause and effect. Yes, cause and effect may also play into this, but they are not the same thing.
It is very important that you expand your thinking beyond this, and understand that the universe acts as a whole in this particular context.
An Example Of The Law Of Reciprocity In Action
Back when I used to sell cars, I had this boss who was from Tennessee. He was a good old boy and a car salesman… but he actually knew a lot about the law of reciprocity, and I learned a lot about it working for him.
We sold cars together, and he was always encouraging me to ‘give some energy’ to certain cars on the lot. We sold a lot of muscle cars on the lot. Hot rods, muscle cards, new age cars, etc.
And when things would get slow, he would have me show some love and attention to certain cars.
For example… he would say “That Corvette over there. Show her some attention.” And I would. And sure enough… before long, the phone would ring, and a different car would sell.
Some days, he would tell me to go take my beautiful girlfriend (now my wife, Melanie) out for lunch in a certain car.
“We need to send some action out,” he would say. “Go feel great in that car. We need something to shift.”
And I would. And sure enough, by the time I would get back, he would have somebody on the line, waiting to purchase another car.
You see, I knew enough to know that taking that car out, feeling great in it, and sending out those positive vibes were probably not going to make that car sell right at that moment.
That is not how the law of reciprocity works.
Instead, it was more about just giving energy out. Going out, washing up a car, waxing it, detailing it, taking new pictures of it, sprucing up the listing, giving it that ‘feeling’ of being loved.
And sure enough, something else would click. Something would shift, and a different car would sell.
You see, the law of reciprocity chooses when and how it repays you for your energy.
You cannot control it. You must simply do, and let the law handle the rest.
Take Stock Of What You Are Doing - Are You Really Helping People?
It is super important to understand that the law of reciprocity gives you back what you are putting out into the universe.
But a lot of people misunderstand this principle.
And because of this, they get stuck in wrong ways of thinking.
If you are running (or trying to start) your own online business right now, it is very important that you stop and take stock of exactly what you are trying to do.
This is a very serious question to ask yourself.
What is your first and utmost priority whenever you sit down to work on your business? Are you…
- Trying to sell things and make money?
- Trying to bring real value to your audience and help them to solve their problems?
A Huge Misconception About Reciprocity
This ties into the biggest misconception about the law of reciprocity… that putting energy into what you want will bring what you want to you.
This is actually not how it works, which is why it is super important to do an overhaul of how you are conducting your business.
If everything you are doing is motivated by trying to make money, then that is the energy you are going to send out into the world. So that is also the energy that is going to come back to you.
Sometime, somewhere, somehow, someone is going to come to you with the intent to make money off of you, because that is the energy you are putting out there!
That is much different than trying to help people, putting out value, and spreading love/positivity.
Just like in the car situation. We didn’t go beating on doors trying to sell cars. We showed those cars some love. We put some good vibes out there, drove them around, looked and felt good in them. That was the energy we put out… and guess what happened?
People who wanted to feel good in some nice cars came knocking on our door instead!
So as you conduct your business, really try to refocus your mindset on providing value instead of making money.
Sure, put up those affiliate links. Sure, make products and build funnels to sell them.
But as you put out content, strive to provide a lot more value than you are earning through your links or sales.
Provide so much value that you are literally giving 10 to 100 times what your products are worth out into the universe.
Provide so much value that you fix other people’s problems for free… without them even being required to buy from you!
This will put out so much energy, will save so many people money, and will start shifting your position in the universe so much that when the time comes for you to reap those rewards, making your sales will just be a return on all of that good you have done for other people!
Look At Gary Vaynerchuk
One fantastic example of this process is Gary Vaynerchuck.
If you have never looked him up, do it.
Gary has made a HUGE following online by creating entrepreneurial-type content, to help entrepreneurs start businesses.
That is pretty much 100% of what his platform is all about. And he has amassed this MASSIVE following online, and SO MANY PEOPLE have been helped by his YouTube, blog posts, podcast, Instagram, Facebook, etc.
Gary is also a huge success monetarily. But guess what? He sells almost nothing in the entrepreneurial sector.
He has a few books that he sells. But for the most part, do you know how Gary Vaynerchuk has made his money?
He sells wine, sells books, sells training classes, sells sneakers, and does speaking engagements.
His entire entrepreneur platform is out on the internet for free.
Anyone who wants to become an entrepreneur can access virtually anything he has ever released, and use it to help them build their business and get into the entrepreneur mindset.
Gary Vaynerchuck Focuses on Value First
So the monetization, for him, does not often come back directly from those people he is helping, in the context of the ‘thing’ that he is helping them with.
Instead, he is helping young CEOs to build businesses for free… and is also selling them wine, shoes, and occasionally books as well, WITHOUT PUSHING THEM.
He also makes BIG MONEY on his speaking engagements!
And that is it. Gary Vaynerchuk puts all of this content out there every day, for free. And he has been, for YEARS now, even before anyone knew about him... and he sells HUGE quantities of wine and sneakers as well. That’s it.
He doesn’t push these products, either. People buy them because they LOVE HIM.
That is huge. That is literally the law of reciprocity working full-tilt for someone who is doing their best to make the world a better place.
It Is Not A Tactic - It Is A Mindset Change
It is very important to understand that this is not a tactic.
It is actually a mindset change. And that is so important to understand.
For the first few years of this online business, I created technical content. I wanted to show people how they could make money online.
But I started to realize that so many people were missing the mark on mindset, that I started transitioning to talking more about that.
The truth is that a lot of people do not understand how vital it is to be in the right frame of mind.
Two Different Ways to Think About Reciprocity
There are two different ways to think about the law of reciprocity.
- It is a tactic that you can use to leverage your effort to create more wealth for yourself.
- It is a law of the universe that will take care of you if your thoughts, feelings, and actions align to help you put value out into the world and create the destiny you want for yourself.
As you can see, these are two very different frames of mind.
And you definitely want to be in line with option 2!
We must always think ‘value first.’
NOT ‘money first.’
If you create content with the constant worry of getting paid, you are going to be messing up your mindset!
Instead, whenever you sit down to write a blog or create a video, you need to ask yourself this question.
How can I create this content to do the most good in the world? How can I craft this piece of content to help my audience the most with the problem they are currently facing?
If you start thinking along those lines every time you make content, you are going to start noticing a HUGE shift in energy in your business!
Trust me. It works for me every single day. And it will work for YOU as well!
You Can’t Rush It
One thing about the law of reciprocity that many people don’t understand is that you can’t rush it!
If you need money NOW, go get a day job and pay your bills that way while you build up value with your business.
It took Melanie and I about 4 or 5 years of nights, weekends, and working on our days off to create a significant lifestyle change with our online business. It really does take time.
But if you stay in the right mindset, and don’t try to rush things, you can absolutely make it work.
Resist the urge to get desperate. Don’t let that show up in your work. Instead, focus on that value, and take your time. Things will happen. Just keep creating and solving problems.
The law of reciprocity is so, so important. You have no idea how this concept will change your life if you will embrace it and start sending real, measurable value out into the universe.
That’s how it works. So just stick with it. Create value for somebody else today.
Go put a smile on someone’s face. Go do great things for other people.
You’d be amazed at what you can create in this world if you would just commit to having a value first mindset, every single day.
That’s all I have for today. Get at me in the comments. I appreciate everyone who comments and asks questions, so please feel free to keep the conversation going.
I’ll see you on the next one!